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In self-help literature, fear of commitment is the avoidance of long-term partnership or marriage.[citation needed] The concept is often much more pervasive, affecting school, work, and home life as well.[citation needed]

The term "commitmentphobia" was coined in the popular self-help book Men Who Can't Love in 1987.[1] Following criticism of the perceived sexist idea that only men were commitmentphobic, the authors provided a more gender balanced model of commitmentphobia in a later work, He's Scared, She's Scared (1995).[2] When aversion to marriage involves fear it's called scottophobia.[3] A hatred of marriage is called misogamy.[4]

Love and commitment are not mutually true inclusive; it's possible for someone to have love for their partner but still have problems with commitment.

Commitment

The state or quality of being dedicated to a cause, activity, etc. [5] Commitment applies to many aspects of life including teams and work. Managing complex projects is not an easy task. When several people are working towards the same goal there must be a level of commitment given by every team member in order to achieve a desirable outcome. Traditionally it falls on the shoulders of the project manager to ensure any problems that may arise are addressed.

Ways to improve/build commitment

  1. Find the Desire behind the Fear
  2. Fulfill that Desire
  3. Creating a Relationship that Fulfills that Desire

Fear of commitment in group situations

Fears of commitment can harm any type of relationship, whether that is with an significant other or another person, can harm the workplace. Emotions reflects on others and when employees come to work with negative emotions it spreads throughout the entire workplace, influencing the work productivity.

Building commitment at work

  1. Ensuring team members feel valued
  2. Volunteer involvement
  3. Build clarity around roles and responsibilities
  4. Foster a sense of Trust
  5. Challenge your Team
  6. Accepting failure
  7. Accept creativity and ideas

Commitment in a Business Workplace

Commitment is a very broad term that is able to relate to so many categories, like relationships or team work. Commitment in the business world is very important because in order to have a successful business, employees and everyone apart of that business must commit to the goals and projected future outcomes desired.

Reasons why commitment is valuable

  1. Builds an effective team
  2. Leads to a successful project outcome
  3. Reassuring team members uphold to their responsibilities
  4. Likely to be more productive and happy
  5. Able to accept different approaches, thought processes, and logic

Reasons why commitment is hard

  1. Selfish issues to NOT upholding to responsibilities assigned either individually or in teams
  2. Fear of not being able to deliver results
  3. Procrastination on projects and assignments
  4. NOT having the adequate skills and requirements necessary for the job
  5. Scared or embarrassed to seek help


Supervisor/Mangers Hold Power

In a work environment, effective supervisor relationships predicts higher organizationally commitment. Managers and supervisors hold the power of office culture and communication. They need to be encouraging, boost moral, communicative, reach out, and do whatever it takes to be an effective manager. The way the manger controls their team would effect the way the team members would work. The more effective work the team members produce the better the result would be for the team. This would increase commitment for the team members and push them to take on more responsibility and do more work for the team. There were nursing studies done in Australia and the United States done on supervisors workforce relationships on engagement effect on team members encouraged them to be more committed to their work. This study shows that the more the nurse supervisors were more engaged and committed to their job, their nurses were more organized, engaged, and committed to producing their best work in the workplace. Engagement captures both intellectual and emotional involvement, which solves the fear of commitment to the job and in the workplace. Brunetto, Xerri. “The Impact of Workplace Relationships on Engagement, Well-Being, Commitment and Turnover for Nurses in Australia and the USA.” Journal of advanced nursing 69.12 (2013): 2786–2799. Web.

Organizational Commitment

There are a few different interpretations of what organizational commitment is. Organizational commitment is a force that binds an individual to their task. Organizational commitment is a hot literary topic these days covering about 6% of all literary articles written annually. Along with many of articles being written about workplace commitment there are also plenty of research being done on workplace commitment using Conceptual theoretical and methodological ways to explain the relevance of workplace commitment to our current world and work habits. Studies have shown that in short term organization or short term positions in a workplace commitment is very low and highly unlikely. Commitment takes time, trust, relationships, and socialization and this can not be done in temporary jobs. The more permeant the jobs are the more encouraged the workers would be. When going into your career the better you find a job that fits you the more committed you will be to your position effecting the better work productivity you offer to the organization. Van Rossenberg, Klein. “The Future of Workplace Commitment: Key Questions and Directions.” European journal of work and organizational psychology 27.2 (2018): 153–167. Web.

Criticism

Besides the common criticisms of self-help, Harvard psychologist Deborah DePaulo has written books such as Singlism on the stigmatization of single people.

The use of the term "fear" or "phobia" imparts an inherent linguistic bias. It recasts specific lifestyle decisions (such as bachelorhood vs. marriage, or a conscious decision to remain childfree by choice) implicitly as generalised, irrational phobias while failing to identify, describe or address an individual's specific motives. For instance, the men's rights movement, citing high divorce rates and expensive alimony and legal costs, would speak not in terms of fear of commitment but of marriage strike to reflect their position that non-marriage is an entirely valid, logical position based on rational consideration of the economic factors involved.[6][7][8]

See also

References

  1. ^ Steven A. Carter & Julia Sokol (1987). Men Who Can't Love. M. Evans & Co. ISBN 978-0-425-11170-3.
  2. ^ Steven A. Carter & Julia Sokol (1995). He's Scared, She's Scared. M. Evans & Co. ISBN 978-0-440-50625-6.
  3. ^ Kantha, Sachi Sri, and Saori Yamamoto. "Medical Aspects in Tackling Fertility Decline among Japanese." International Medical Journal 22.6 (2015): 450-452
  4. ^ Ben-Rafael, Eliezer, and Sasha Weitman. "The reconstitution of the family in the kibbutz." European Journal of Sociology 25.01 (1984): 1-27.
  5. ^ "commitment - Google Search". www.google.com. Retrieved 2020-10-05.
  6. ^ Glenn Sacks; Dianna Thompson (2002-07-09). "Have Anti-Father Family Court Policies Led to a Men's Marriage Strike?". ifeminists.com. Retrieved 2013-07-15.
  7. ^ Helen Smith (4 June 2013). "The Marriage Strike: why men don't marry". Men on Strike: Why Men Are Boycotting Marriage, Fatherhood, and the American Dream-And Why It Matters. ENCOUNTER BOOKS. pp. 1–39. ISBN 978-1-59403-675-0.
  8. ^ Wendy McElroy (2003-08-12). "The Marriage Strike". Fox News - Opinion. Retrieved 2013-07-15.
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