Dual process model of coping

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DUAL PROCESS MODEL OF COPING Margaret Stroebe and Henk Schut conducted a study, “The Dual Process Model of Coping with Bereavement: A Decade On.” In this study, the models of coping were examined and how it could be of benefit compared to others. The Dual Process Model evaluates how coping with bereavement can be a combination of confronting and avoiding it. It informs on how the combination can be a good and healthy process to cope. Being able to confront the situation and also avoid it to deal with everyday life events can allow the person to live their lives as normal as possible. (Stroebe, 2010) COPING To cope for a loss is to allow oneself to feel and acknowledge that they are allowed to do so. Coping with bereavement can be one of the most difficult things in life. People will vary in the ways that they grieve and also in the way that they cope. There is not a magical one way fits all on how one should cope. Bereavement can bring many ailments to a person including mental and physical ailments. To cope with the loss, the person will need to take care of them as a whole and understand the process that is not clear. They will go through times of extreme sadness and also times where they are numb to what has happened. These times will feel like they are forgetting their loved one. The guilt of this can bring on more pain for a person. But, acknowledging it and allowing themselves to go through the motions will allow them to cope in a healthy way. They will need to allow themselves to have time off of the grieving, as well as those times of extreme pain where nothing or no one is important but the pain that they are feeling. (Richardson, 2010) LOSS ORIENTED The Loss Oriented Process focuses on coping with bereavement, the loss itself, recognizing it and accepting it. In this process a person will deal with all the losses that occur from losing their loved one. There will be many changes from work to family and friendships. There might also be demographic changes and even economic ones. During this time, they will deal with and acknowledge these changes head on and with all the hurt that it entails. The loss oriented process will bring on a lot of sadness, and cause feelings of depression. During this process they are only concentrated on their pain that this loss has caused. They will need to acknowledge that they will no longer speak to this person or see them again. They will need to grieve these losses, as well from social status to friends, and family. This can make everything feel overwhelming, and even selfish for being affected by them. (Fasse, 2015) RESTORATION-ORIENTED In Restoration-Oriented Process, the loss of the loved one is avoided. A person is in a denial period while they are coming in and out of this stage. They focus on the new roles in their lives while not attending to the losses that these new roles have taken over. The Restoration-Oriented Process incorporates a new life and confronting this. The new takes over the old and for these moments they disregard the grief they are feeling. The Restoration process can bring on guilt, a person might feel they are not acknowledging their loved one or the life they lived. People can feel they are offending the sadness and loss they are going through by avoiding it. This process allows the person to live their daily life and the stressors that come with it. Without being consumed by the grieving they are going through. (Bennett, 2010) CONCLUSION The Dual Process Model of Coping takes into consideration that everyone will have stressful life events, while they are coping with bereavement. Their lives will continue and so will the problems associated with it. There will be many situations that will take them away from grieving. These situations can either benefit them or affect them negatively if they allow them to. Being aware and prepared as much as they can, can allow them to continue and deal with these life events. Dealing with normal day to day life events can distract them from their grief and even relieve them from the feelings they are going through. To many this might bring on feelings of guilt. But understanding that this is a normal process that they will go through and not a way to offend the loss they feel for their loved one.

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REFERENCES Bennett, K. M.-S. (2010). Loss and Restoration in Later Life: An Examination of Dual Process Model of Coping with Bereavement. Omega: Journal Of Death & Dying, 315-332. Fasse, L. &. (2015). Dual Process Model of Coping With Bereavement in the Test of the Subjective Experiences of Bereaved Spouses. Omega: Journal Of Death & Dying, 1-27. Richardson, V. E. (2010). The Dual Process Model of Coping with Bereavement: A Decade Later. Omega: Journal of Death & Dying, 269-271. Stroebe, M. &. (2010). The Dual Process Model of Coping with Bereavement: A Decade On. Omega: Journal Of Death & Dying, 273-289.